Was the budget spent on my wedding or on decorating their house?
When I got married a few years ago, it was an at-home wedding.
It was in my aunt’s house and at Christmas time. I have always admired how she decorated her home.
After the wedding, there were several comments made about how much my wedding cost her and my other aunt.
My husband and I paid for the cake, flowers and rings. The only clothing purchased was my outfit () and my MOH (). She choose to purchase an outfit for her daughter to be a bride’s maid (without my consent because the 6 year old was jealous).
The second aunt paid for the food. I went shopping with her and kept the cost down ().
All the other things (painting her kitchen, wallpaper, stenciling the walls, wall sconces and candles and more floral decorations) was their ideas and she, of course, kept them. There was also more decorations bought for her new 12 ft. Christmas tree.
The total comes to over ,000. They say that was the cost of my wedding. I say that was the cost of her re-decorating
her home.
(P.S.) My aunts stepped in because they promised after my mother died that they would give me my wedding.
I did not ask all the re-decorating. It was a family only wedding (around15-20 people). None of the flowers, decorations, or even the leftover food came to my house.
I loved my wedding but 7 years later I still hear about how much my wedding cost. Yet, I know for each of their daughters’ weddings cost about ,000 to ,000. It’s not the money ( and I know I am not their daughter so it is not the same). It is the comments that mine cost so much.
Who is right? Was the re-decorating part of the cost of my wedding or was the wedding an excuse to re-decorate?
Can the re-decorating be defined as a legitimate part of the wedding budget?
As to was she intending to re-decorate-yes and no. She wanted to and had been picking out paint and wallpaper samples for a year before I met my husband.
As to why it is still an issue- because it is with the aunts. As recently as this past weekend, one aunt listed all the things they paid for and how much it cost them. The general topic of weddings can not come up without hashing it over again but it is never mentioned how much the other weddings cost them. I feel defensive every time this happens which is about once a month.
